Making Appointments with Myself

I am not going to lie! Middle age is upon me!

As long as I am confessing my sins to the blog this week, I want to talk about the state of my overall health.

It hasn’t been pretty…mostly do to a lack of exercise in 2011 and 2012.

Blood work numbers are higher and thyroid a tad bit out of whack. I have a ton of skin issues, one genetic, one a result of strep infection after a third world country visit that I still can’t get under control.

This year, I am determined to get back in shape, eat better, improve my skin and lower my stress level.

I have been making strides.

1. At the end of 2011, I cut down on all of my extra curricular activities from shooting photography (boo) to taking on extra assignments and stretching myself to thin. Not easy when you work at a 7G pace on a normal basis.

I am sure people think I am rude when I just tell them no. But I have to protect my own time and when you are a single mom during the week, time matters.

I have already felt the changes in 2012 from taking on less. I like where I am at right now mentally.

2. I started implementing a monthly massage to help me relax and lower my stress and attention. As my skin diseases are impacted by my stress level, I decided to do everything I could to reduce stress and a monthly massage is definitely helping.

Plus it is a luxury that I just flat out love.

3. I have stopped worrying so much about being frugal, which is a trait of the financially conscience people and the Mormons and started being more realistic. Don’t worry I am still money conscience to a tee…and I have always considered frugal a swear word, it implies tight wad and I hate that.

What I mean is that….. I am paying out for additional help now that I need to make things run more smoothly and the benefits seem to be helping keep things in order but still maintaining a budget.

I am not a super woman people! I need help around this place.

For example,

In 2012, I hired back my housekeepers that I let go during the recession when I realized I couldn’t maintain the “mini plantation” :) on my own while Brian travelled his guts out.

In 2013, I implemented my new grocery delivery program that I have been bragging about this whole week.

I have taken control of my finances again in 2013 and the family menu.

(I have never maintained any debt and that takes a big chunk off of your plate and gives you room to work…so no matter where you are financially….get out of debt! That is the secret to everything in life!)

4. I am continuing to travel on every occasion I get ….this is my spend out! And while my 2002 carpet still needs replacing and things are breaking in the house, I don’t care….I am going to some of the greatest places in the world this year and that brings me complete JOY!

Travel is always a top priority and I can’t wait for the next adventure…I will die poor in the bank…but I will have lived large around the world :)

Now for the hard truth!

5. I have also implemented a daily appointment with myself and the gym.
It is hard to believe that an experienced aerobics instructor like myself could fall so far. (I stopped weekly teaching in 2010.)

Since I became a sub instructor in 2010 at the gym (to keep my membership), my body has gone to pot.

As a result of sitting home on a computer and homeschooling….which has led to continual excuse making….I decided 3 weeks a go to make a change.

At the beginning of this new year, I decided to make an appointment with myself everyday at the same time at the gym.

The last three weeks I have gone 4 days a week and yesterday, I finally woke up to some energy that led me to that massive kitchen organization reconstruction...that by way…really paid off. (I cleaned the fridge, the freezer and Hillary cleaned and organized the cabinets with me….a dream!)

I started a spin class and a zumba class which I am totally uncoordinated in but love. (PS Hillary just got certified to teach zumba and has been hired as an instructor at my club. She will teach this summer as a regular and is subbing until then.)

I have been teaching in the pool instead of the deck! I have been subbing at least once a week. Today, I am teaching a 45 minute aqua boot camp!

This is such a funny thing but I haven’t stepped foot in the gym, outside of walking in two years…..but I am finding that I can’t wait to go today!

I decided to stop making excuses about the kids, single motherhood, busy schedules and just set a time that works. So far so good!

I am hoping to see my blood work numbers go down and improvement with my overall health increase.

6. Finally, I just want to enjoy my family more and that means spending less time doing what doesn’t matter and more time doing what does!

It is all about change this year for me…..Looking forward to a great February!

Attitude for Gratitude

Ok I admit, I had a small moment yesterday. I am feeling much better today as I really nothing is major and only momentary! I appreciate the notes and comments some of you sent! Throughout the day each comment made me smile, gave me hope and uplifted my spirit! I was impressed in your busy day that each of you did that! Thanks

Since I wrote that I had four separate reasons to believe that things could be much worse! My eyes were opened!

My friends husband lost his job!

One of Brian’s colleagues ex wife murdered their young child yesterday! So shocking !

Their life turned upside down! He is completely respected in his field. Unbelievable! That was like a weird thing you hear with crazy people not people we know! She was apparently suicidal!

Another friend deals with despair as she finds purpose to her life! I feel so much compassion for her! She was dealt an unfair hand early in life, widowed at a young age !

Another friend has a son in surgery today!

My younger brother’s friend who I knew, lost his father last night in death.

All of this in 24 hours…honestly!

I think I was meant to see all of this to realize how bad my attitude was yesterday !

I think I was meant to see to decide how I would respond! How can I serve?

Today I have a total attitude for gratitude ! How 24 hours can make a difference! It was time to get to get out of my own misery of the mundane and thinking about others!

Happiness, Suffering and Everything in Between- Straight out of My Brain

Don’t be shocked but I just realized that not everyone has a happy home.

Call me naive’ but I expect the best in everyone and I assumed that everyone is happy for the most part.

Brian and I love the following quote-

But more recently than ever, I have come face to face with dozens of people living day to day lives…..essentially unhappy! Each person that I have met with has serious, deep down problems that seemed almost insolvable.

What contributes to this?

Trials? Lack of money? Abuse? Bad marriages? Guidance and direction? Bad luck? Death? Job and education woes?

Or maybe it is all of the above and more?

I came home from one recent meeting with a women who had a slew of problems, the shame and guilt I personally felt for being so happy was almost unbearable.

And it is not like I don’t get it!

I have been in countries where people have virtually nothing and have a high level of happiness. I mean, these are places that we can’t dream of in America.

And in America, I have walked the streets and served in one of the toughest areas of Los Angeles on Skid Row where life reaches an all time low.

Sometimes it easy to turn our backs on those that are suffering. Why bother? Is a question we might ask ourselves….

Human suffering is real, it is profound, it is life changing. There is adversity on every level for you, me and those who surround us.

Remember these shots I took last year on skid row in real time. You don’t have to go there to view it, it is right in your own neighborhoods to some degree.

(My thought at the time and still remains….not one of us….has it as bad as those on skid-row.)

How we choose to deal with adversity is a completely different story.

Are we optimistic, forgiving, charitable and kind?

For me consumption is a big factor, In fact, I definitely believe that less is more on every level.

Do we complicate our lives by adding more of whatever it is that is bringing us down?

I don’t know! I try not to judge!

I am happy that I was taught the great plan of happiness in my home and the secrets to dealing with adversity and trial.

I sometimes think I am riding a huge wave…..perhaps my day is coming? I don’t know!

More than ever, I am so grateful that I came from a stable home and so did Brian,

I am grateful for two families that were genuinely happy and loved each other.

I am grateful these principles were taught in my home.

But what about those who suffer….?

Print Credits: From a fantastic blog and mother of 9 Allison Kimball

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