For one month I have been on an emotional roller coaster with every single child in this house…the whole PROCESS has been draining.
It doesn’t seem like anyone can stay up or at least down for an even amount of time.
Let me illustrate, everyone has had really big changes, new colleges, new high schools and new teachers.
It seems like everyday someone is up or down and it is never the same person twice. Right when I think one person is doing great another is struggling.
It is like we walk up two stairs and back one with every child. I am even emotionally exhausted from the two steps.
Let’s talk about struggling. I really believe until people have to take charge of their destiny, struggle and deal with their own challenges or they don’t grow.
Oh but it is hard, to watch them go through that and not want to pick up the pieces. But you can’t…you can only encourage.
Time is the other major factor. It wouldn’t be so hard if there were more hours in a day or so we tell ourselves. Human nature is that you would just feel the time with more things to do right?
Time management skills are so important. For Chase it is about time because playing varsity football eats up several hours every afternoon….ummmm like 4 by the time he is home, he eats and he is back into it until 11pm every night, burning it from both ends. The classic advice from everyone is take him out of sports…ummm….not going to happen as he loves what he is doing and is willing to pay the price.
We did encourage him to reconsider basketball for winter as that would free up most of his life and give him more time, it is not his passion and a long season. He agreed to that. We all sighed a breath of relief once that decision had been made.
My contributions have been to all of the children is trying to teach quality. Doing the best you can with what you have and let God make up the rest.
I have said it a million times I was a straight B student up until my 3rd year of college when I figured it out. I struggled through high school, got a few A’s here and there, struggled through the first two years of college and then it clicked.
Hillary is struggling with Italian and getting A’s in everything else. Foreign language is required and no laughing matter at BYU. Infact, it is dead hard. It is required for her major. That single course will be her biggest challenge at the University this fall. My advice to her- keep finding solutions.
Finally, I found her a tutor. I hope that she uses him and takes advantage of the extra assistance. In my distorted, travel mind I keep thinking ….just move to Italy, it is so much easier to learn Italian on site. That would be a solution to all of my problems….let’s just pack up and move to Italy…ha ha
Liz is struggling, she can’t seem to get into the flow of things and is a little unorganized right now. I swear I get an email everyday from her teacher about her forgetting something…not really, but it seems that way.
And it seems like the only one not struggling is Noah and that is because we are homeschooling. God bless homeschooling. He gets plenty of rest, works at a nice pace and doesn’t feel the tedious impact of stupid rote memory and dumb handouts you have to fill out to pass a course.
I was so glad that Hillary did the community college for high school as she was able to focus on three or four classes a semester and do well, received college credit and did not do 6 classes a semester that don’t give you credit, have a ton of tedious work and never enough time to study. She finished with 68 hours of college credit all accepted at the next level. Even human biology had its moments, really four months of moments, but it was learned and then over.
I can’t even stand it in elementary school…really? Some of the stuff is stupid.
And I am anti-common core and it is everywhere, creeping up everywhere.
Wow this has turned into a full blown therapy session with myself. I have to walk through it all mentally in my mind.
I keep reminding them it is about the process, the process of learning, growing and developing and soon it will be over and you will miss the process, you will miss college, high school and even elementary school because your next challenge will be a bigger mountain to climb.
And right now, I am on a pretty big summit to climb, taking a breather this morning and reminding myself about my new favorite word…the process.